You become just like me when I was in my mid-to-late twenties — distant, cold, numb and unable to form any genuine long-term bonds.
I’ve been through some things, just like many of you — maybe worse, maybe not so much. The way I went about handling my feelings around these issues was dangerous.
I suppressed my emotions in an effort to avoid pain.
Pain is a process.
But little did I know, my effort to avoid pain succeeded in not only numbing the emotions associated with pain, they also numbed my ability to feel joy.
Eventually, I stopped “feeling” things that I use to feel. Things a normal person would feel.
Fortunately, I was able to turn this behavior around before they became cemented.
Pain is a process. You won’t know what joy is if you don’t process pain.
It’s normal to want to avoid things that are painful. But we shouldn’t let that desire rob us of the beauty of the other side.